Somewhere in midlife, the questions get louder. The ground shifts beneath our feet. And while we’re capable, resourceful women, there are moments when we long for someone to walk alongside us—to help us sort, sift, and see more clearly.

That’s where coaching comes in. Coaching isn’t about fixing you (you’re not broken) or telling you what to do (you’re wise already). It’s about creating a space where your clarity, courage, and next steps can rise to the surface.

So, how do you know if you’re ready for midlife coaching? Here are seven signs:

1. You’re tired of asking, “What’s the matter with me?”

If you find yourself looping through self-blame, exhaustion, or overwhelm, coaching can help you reframe the question. Instead of “What’s the matter with me?” you’ll begin to ask, “What truly matters to me?”—and that shift changes everything.

A woman traveling through her midlife passage has a choice.

She can keep pushing through, treating her discomfort as a problem to fix so she can “feel like herself again”—perhaps believing her body and even Time itself are conspiring against her.

Or she can choose the path less traveled—what I’ve come to call the well-seasoned one.

She can listen to the invitation to get clear, reclaim her power, befriend her wiring, and create a life she truly loves.

And here’s the shift that makes all the difference: she moves beyond simply asking, “What’s the matter with me?” and begins living in alignment with a far more powerful question— “What truly matters to me?”

Perhaps you’ve already had experience standing in that strange, in-between place—the gap between No More and Not Yet.

It’s that pause between the familiar and the unknown.

Between the self you’ve already outgrown and the self you’ve not yet stepped into.

The gap is often uncomfortable, even disorienting. You’re standing in an empty hallway with no door cracked open yet. Everything in you wants to rush—wants certainty, answers, a solid plan to stand on.

But urgency rarely serves us here.

There are days when what we most need isn’t another plan, another productivity hack, or another reason to hustle. What we need is a pause. A breath. A word of truth spoken over our own lives.

That’s where affirmations come in.

For me—and for many of the women I coach—affirmations are not fluffy wishful thinking. They’re a practice. A well-seasoned practice that helps us cut through noise, calm our inner critic, and anchor into the truths we most want to live by.

And because the second half of life requires us to hold the both/and of things—clarity and uncertainty, action and surrender—affirmations give us a way to ground ourselves in the present, even as we keep evolving.