The Kindness Revolution

We women are strong, resilient, and practical.

For those we love, we move mountains to get stuff done and make sure they feel loved, seen, and valued.

But how often do we practice being strong in pursuit of kindness and compassion toward ourselves?

If you’re anything like me, the answer is—not often enough. And it’s not your fault. We’ve been conditioned by culture to believe we’re only valuable when we’re hustling, performing, or proving.

So I want to invite us into a little revolution.

The Tyranny of “Less Than”

Everywhere we turn—Hollywood movies, influencer reels, glossy ads—we’re met with messages that whisper, You’re not enough. And if those voices weren’t already loud, most of us carry an inner critic that sounds suspiciously like a well-meaning parent, a high-school mean girl, or a past boss, reminding us that we don’t measure up.

Those messages swirl inside:

• If you’re not on this cleanse, you’re failing your health.

• If your home doesn’t look Pinterest-worthy, you’re lacking as a hostess.

• If your kids’ summer isn’t curated to the last detail, you’re failing as a mom.

• If you can’t lose 10 pounds and wear heels, you really shouldn’t wear that.

Sound familiar? You’re not alone.

But here’s the truth: we don’t have to buy into these narratives. We have the strength, resilience, and gumption to change the story.

A Declaration of Non-Dependence

I’m inviting us to sign a personal “Declaration of Non-Dependence”—on anything or anyone who makes us feel unworthy or less than.

That means setting boundaries with the external voices and with the inner critic. Because if we wouldn’t let a loved one talk about themselves in such cruel ways, why do we let ourselves get away with it?

And here’s the kicker: I don’t want the critical whisper in my daughters’ heads to be mine.

So, knowing that the best way to prevent that is to do my own work—to notice, to feel, and to reframe—I keep showing up to practice, again and again on myself.

Practicing Boundaries with Kindness

Let’s start where so many of us spend our time: social media.

1. Reflect & purge.
Spend 10 minutes unfollowing accounts that leave you feeling less-than. Protect your heart and mind.

2. Bookend your scrolling.
Before you scroll, ask: What am I seeking, and how long will I give it? After you scroll, ask: What did I gain? What did I lose?

3. Give yourself a break.
You won’t get it perfect. That’s not the point. When you slip, treat it as information, not failure.

Replace the Mean With the Kind

Setting boundaries with the negative is only half the revolution. The other half? Replacing those mean messages with compassionate, nourishing ones.

Try whispering to yourself:

• Even when it wasn’t perfect, you did your best today—and I’m mighty proud.

• Needing rest isn’t a failure; it’s part of the long-game strategy to remain openhearted and authentically vital.

The more we practice this, the more those grooves of self-kindness get worn into our brains, softening the old ruts of self-criticism.

The Worthiness Practice

Is mustering the strength to tame these voices easy? Nope. They’ve been around a long time.

Is it worth it? Oh, heck-to-the-yeah.

Because you are worthy. Because your life has meaning. Because your influence matters.

And because, in the end, living strong and kind is no less than who you were created to be.

So—are you with me?

Good. Let’s change the story.